Ways That Jiu Jitsu Brings Family Closer Together


Ways That Jiu Jitsu Brings Family Closer Together


Anyone alive today will tell you that there seems to be a pronounced decline in family cohesiveness and togetherness. This is not my personal opinion (because I have not been alive long enough to see the progression take place) however it doesn’t take more than a short stroll through the history books and TV media to see that the family unit is indeed becoming further and further separated. Volumes of research have been produced on the topic and there are statistical warehouses of data that can be examined for exact numerical figures.




For this article though I would like to primarily focus on how Brazilian Jiu Jitsu brings families together. Throughout this past year tons of parents have sent in their pictures, videos and stories of how they are enjoying their BJJ Journey with their children and loved ones. After having received so many fan and follower submissions I began thinking about Jiu Jitsu and the familial bond, and this is what I have come up with.


Brazilian Jiu Jitsu is primarily for self-defense, but it is also a game and a sport. Parents want their children to be safe and to be able to defend themselves. Children want these same things, but they want to play games and enjoy sports as well. Jiu Jitsu satisfies all of these needs in one fell swoop. Boys, girls, men and women can all benefit from and be successful with BJJ, and all of these rival factions can compete against each other. This is one of the main factors influencing BJJ and familial togetherness, is the fact that they can do it together, and yet against each other. Life is full of ironies.



(Dad enjoying last roll with his son as a white belt)


Sometimes a parent will take their child to Jiu Jitsu for such a long time that their own curiosities are awakened. Perhaps they decide they would like to be a more knowledgeable coach for their child. Perhaps they want to make sure that their child doesn’t become physically able to discipline them, instead of the other way around. “No Dad. I was telling you that I am borrowing the car, not asking.” Conversely on other occasions, the child may come to watch Dad or Mom do BJJ, and then they become curious and interested. The bottom line is, it’s hard to watch a room full of people doing Jiu Jitsu, without eventually wanting to try it out for yourself.



(Mom and daughter BJJ team)


Now that the family is doing Jiu Jitsu together, there is always something to talk about! There is always something to relate to. It is never a drag to go on vacations together because vacations usually revolve around BJJ tournaments!


The same holds true for BJJ couples. Inevitably your Jiu Jitsu practicing mate is going to insist that they try out a move on you. You realize that if you don’t learn to love this martial art, your relationship with this person is probably doomed because of their obsession. Every time you go to hug your boyfriend or girlfriend, they will be vying for double underhooks or some strange sequence of positioning that you do not understand. Sometimes they may even inadvertently go for the submission win and eventually you will find yourself saying, “I should really learn how to defend that.”



(First father/son blue belts at my academy)


The family that does Jiu Jitsu together, stays together. They enjoy their time together. They share a vast amount of commonalities. Everyone eats healthy, lives a healthy lifestyle and lives happily ever after.


What do you think? Do you know of any families like the Gracie Family? Where practically everyone does Jiu Jitsu?


Check out some more pictures that we have been sent below!



(Daniel V. and 10 year old daughter’s white belts)



(Coach “PA” George McGinnis and son)



(Brent A. with his daughter, son and Relson Gracie)



10 Things I Used To Do, That I Don’t Do Now That I Do BJJ




10 Things I Used To Do, That I Don’t Do Now That I Do BJJ
by Tony Peranio


When Brazilian Jiu Jitsu becomes important to you habits that used to “die hard” suddenly fall away quite naturally.


1. Get Drunk

I may still have a drink on occasion but I no longer drink to be drunk, sloppy or stupid. I didn’t drink to get like that before BJJ, but sometimes it would accidentally happen though. Drinking leads to hangovers and hangovers are horrible for your BJJ.


2. Smoke Cigarettes

I wasn’t a big time smoker but I would have a puff here and there. When a teammate smelled it in my gi and called me out I decided I had to quit permanently. Quit smoking and you will be able to roll for an hour effortlessly. Continue smoking and you will feel like you are going to die after 20 minutes of sparring, every time. Now, like all of the other non-smokers in the world I view smokers as dirty, filthy people!!


3. Date

I used to chase girls around (nothing too extreme but I am Italian). Now instead of flirting, I turn my gaze low, because dating a “BJJ civilian” would mean time and focus away from the mats. That, I cannot have. I’m sure somewhere out there is a lovely lady who is a BJJ enthusiast, physical therapist/chiropractor, chef de cuisine and humanitarian, who enjoys watching someone make memes and craft articles about BJJ all day (when not at BJJ of course). Seriously though, is that too much to ask?


4. Hang Out With Non-BJJ Friends

I really should hang out with them more, but oft times nothing productive ever comes about from it. My phone used to ring (do phones still ring?) and I would get tons of texts. After a few years of Jiu Jitsu my phone suddenly never goes off. However, if you hang out with your BJJ buddies, inevitably you will “spontaneously” bust out your grappling mats (which you have of course) and get to rolling! You can also do this with your regular friends but after a while it gets boring owning them over and over and over again.


5. Workout Just For Looks

I used to go to the gym to lift weights 5 days per week. My primary concern was looks. I’m not gonna lie, health was involved but it was more of a byproduct of working out. After taking up BJJ I began exercising differently, and with purpose. You will often see me rushing women off of the leg abduction machine so I can work my inner thigh muscles, to keep you locked in my guard tighter.


6. Train Striking

Probably like everyone else starting out in BJJ I wanted to “fight UFC bro”. I would be mad as heck (excuse my language) if we didn’t roll at the end of class. “Really? I came all the way to here to jab in a line across the gym and do crunches and then kick a heavy bag?” Then when you sparred kickboxing, people would actually punch you in the face! Ain’t nobody got time fo’ dat. After I threw on the gi it was nothing but collar chokes from then on out.


7. Feel Defenseless

When you practice Brazilian Jiu Jitsu you begin sizing up everyone in your immediate vicinity. In your mind you say, “How would I get so-and-so to the ground?” It starts getting a bit excessive when you’re like, “I bet Uncle Steve would go straight down if I double-legged him right now.” This isn’t the best way to think perhaps, but it certainly makes you feel safe. No matter how big or small these other mortals are, you say, “Pft. I would just take this s–t to the ground. Come at me bro.” After you get your blue belt you are like, “I could take out at least three of them.”


8. Eat Fast Food/Junk Food

Mickeydees aw hell naw (how’s that for being colloquial?). Chic-fil-a, no way. Chipotle though, thats okay. I literally just wrote that. I knew I should have been a rapper. Sorry for digressing. But again, when you begin doing BJJ you all-of-the-sudden want to take care of your body, so that you can hurl it into bloody warfare on the mats. Therefore fast food is a no no.


9. Watch TV

Until they come out with a Brazilian Jiu Jitsu channel on FiOS or DirectTV, I’ll be watching YouTube videos about BJJ (okay you got me… I will watch Game of Thrones but that is totally it).


10. Argue With People

When you do BJJ you could have previously been the most hardened individual, but after getting choked out by people half of your size for a long enough period of time, you quickly become “strangely humble” and “particularly friendly”. It’s weird how that works.


I hope you enjoyed the read. How about you? Any life or habit changes since starting out in BJJ?



BJJ. It’s Like Pizza.




BJJ. It’s Like Pizza.
by Mark Sasser


Spending 20 years as a high level athlete in a different sport before picking up Jiu Jitsu (at the age of 45) gave me plenty of time to learn the ins and outs of being competitive, and how to be better at something today than I was yesterday. This completely went out the window when I started BJJ and was being tapped out by practically everyone at my academy. I had little choice but to look for a mentor to help me make sense of this human chess game that we call Brazilian Jiu Jitsu.


My first private lesson was with one of the team purple belts. He hearkened me back to all of the coaches I’d ever had and how they made my previous sports make sense. Those were American sports though, not the hard-nosed Brazilian Jiu Jitsu I was now attempting to learn. I was told that BJJ makes you the hammer sometimes, and the nail other times. I was told that witnessing this personally for yourself can be both shocking, and amusing.


Now let’s fast-forward to later that day. I’m suited up in my new Gi and I’m waiting on the mat for my one on one. The first thing I can remember hearing is,


“You like pizza, right?”


“Well yeah, I like pizza, but what does that have to do with anything that we are doing here?”


“Jiu Jitsu is just like pizza. I know you like pizza, so let’s get cooking!”


At this point I’m pretty sure my “BJJ pizza chef” has spent a little too much time in a triangle choke. However I wasn’t going to bail until I figured out this BJJ/pizza analogy (because I truly do like pizza). So with a raised eyebrow I gave my signature, “oh yeah”.


“BJJ”, he tells me, “is as simple as learning the elements of your favorite pizza. You have your basics which is the crust, defense the sauce, cardio is the cheese; and without all three you are left with something unsavory.” At this point he had my full attention. He rolled into the details of the toppings and how each and every move is just an ingredient. You can pick and choose which ones work to your taste an how much of each you want to put onto your pizza. But, you first had to have all of the ingredients in the fridge, and the crust has to be perfect.


Now when I train it’s a thick crust with traditional sauce, heavy cheese with some collar chokes, a mouse trap and an side of arm bars.


Just don’t expect delivery in 30 mins or less.



Rare Helio Gracie Footage!



(Grandmaster Helio Gracie)

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Rare Helio Gracie Footage!


Grandmaster Helio Gracie was born October 1, 1913 and passed January 29, 2009. He is credited with being one of the founding fathers of our beloved sport of Brazilian Jiu Jitsu.


Helio was not physically a large man. His lack of an imposing physical stature caused him to make adaptations to the Jiu Jitsu that he had learned from his older brother Carlos. Eventually his adaptations would allow for the smaller person to be able to defeat the larger person. Before Helio Gracie, “size mattered” in terms of combat sports and self-defense.




This “David and Goliath” theme would be revisited in 1993 when the most unimposing of Helio’s sons Royce, would herald the popularization of Brazilian Jiu Jitsu in the United States at UFC 1.



(Helio Gracie’s son Royce Gracie fighting at UFC 5)



Thankfully video camera technology was around to chronicle the rise of Gracie Jiu Jitsu, and thankfully it is all available on YouTube for the world to witness. Much of the footage below is quite rare and would probably have gone largely unseen were it not for this age of video sharing. That being said I hope you enjoy!







BJJ White Belt YouTube Starter Kit




BJJ White Belt YouTube Starter Kit


You could spend a lifetime training BJJ and at the end of your days you would find yourself to be a student still. There are an infinite amount of subtle and slight nuances to be mastered after you spend many years wrangling with the basic fundamentals. Thankfully the arduous journey, is a fun one indeed.


The collective presumption is that the best way to learn Jiu Jitsu, is to join a reputable Jiu Jitsu academy, and to attend the classes there regularly. If this happens to be an impossibility for you, for whatever the reason may be, then video resources would be your next best option. Hopefully circumstances will change for you and you find yourself in a position to train BJJ at a proper gym. If you can find someone to be your training partner until that time comes, (or training dummy!) then you will be that much better off.


YouTube has become a valuable resource for novice BJJ players, as well as seasoned vets. Below are a few important videos to help get you successfully started on your Brazilian Jiu Jitsu journey:








There are literally thousands of videos out there to help you on your BJJ journey. Hopefully this series of videos was helpful in getting you acclimated to our beautiful sport!



How To Tell Your Coach You Want To Train Elsewhere


How To Tell Your Coach You Want To Train Elsewhere

by George McGinnis


For those unfamiliar with the term “cross training”, it generally means to work with other people and teams outside of your primary school as a means of supplementary training. This could mean that you travel to another school for a day, or that you simply wish to invite someone to train with you. The goal is often to share ideas, roll with new people, and experience new curricula and training styles.


The trick is to approach the subject in a way as to not raise a “red flag” with your instructor. When a student takes the appropriate measures in terms of asking their coach if they can train with other people, their request is often well received, and accommodations and compromises usually follow. When the situation is approached in a less than ideal manner, it can set a rocky tone between a student and their trainer for some time to come.




Some examples of going about it poorly may be:


– To travel to another location without speaking to your instructor beforehand. This can come across as “shady” or inconsiderate. Some coaches may even take it as disrespect.


– To approach the situation with a demeanor of, “I’m going to do what I want regardless”, is not the best way to go. Instructors generally do not respond well to students that are self-serving and “pushy”. Consider approaching it as a “polite request” vs. an “entitled demand”.




Ways to approach it correctly can be:


– To put your thoughts together in advance; via notes and solo brain storming. Having your goals, needs and ideas together in advance will show initiative and care for the situation.


– To approach your coach at a convenient time. This could be after practice, by a phone call during off hours, towards the end of a private lesson, a moment in private, etc. Most trainers are on auto pilot during school hours (you can trust me on that).


– To assure them that your intentions are well intended. Let them know that your happy with their service (should you be), and that it is not a reflection on them. Reiterate that you’re just looking to mix things up on occasion. Disarm their potential concerns of you’re “jumping ship” by explaining that this again, is not your intention.


– To allow them a feasible amount of time to process your request, should they need it. Some instructors won’t mind in the slightest, while others may need a little time to mull it over. They may or may not have reluctance due to previous requests that were made in the past.


– To put yourself in their shoes. This will at the very least give you the advantage of some additional perspective. It will also allow you to anticipate questions and concerns your coach may have.


It is natural for a student to want to spread their wings on occasion. Curiosity is in human nature. It is also understandable for an instructor to have a little apprehension about it in the process, as not every student before you has likely proved forthcoming. This is why good ol’ fashion communication is key! Make your goals and needs known while keeping your instructors position in mind, and the process may be less painful than you think. Good luck!



Female BJJ Survival Tips




Female BJJ survival Tips
by Livia Gluchowska


I’m a purple belt from Melbourne, Australia. Although I am still a relative baby in this sport, and have only been around for 4.5 years, I’ve trained at over 40 academies around the world. From what I gather, one thing is certain… it is not easy being a female in the sport of Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. Especially a small one (I sit at around 53 kgs).


The female BJJ population is growing rapidly. I have seen a massive increase of women training and participating in competitions in the past 4 years. What’s even more exciting is the growth of women’s only classes, female-only support groups and open mats. When I first started there was none of that. There were no other ladies at my gym and sometimes no one to talk to about my issues.




Personally, it didn’t affect me too much, as I have been an athlete all my life  – a gymnast for 12 years and a sprint cyclist for 6 years. As a cyclist I was used to being one of the very few ladies competing, being labelled ‘non-feminine’ and racing for no financial reward, whilst my male counterparts were offered up to $10K for the same race.


However, Jiu Jitsu can be incredibly rewarding if you can stick through the first 6-12 months. For me, that was the hardest period. Being the physically smaller and weaker sex, it is only now as a purple belt that my technique is starting to work against bigger, but less experienced opponents.




Here are some helpful observations and tips to help you get through the first couple of years:


  • Perhaps the most common scenario I come across with other ladies training BJJ, especially in the earlier years, is dealing with tears and my unfortunate ability to turn on the water works at any given time. We all do it. We all hate it. All of us are embarrassed by it. Why? My theory is that (apart from the damn hormones) us girls are very good at taking things personally. This means that if we fail at a sweep, the emotional response is frustration, which can come out as tears. Some of my friends cry as they get choked for no particular reason. Others like to compare themselves to every other female that ever trained and is successful. To make matters worse, as soon as someone asks if you are ok, the result is usually more tears.


  • It took me until about 3 years into my BJJ journey to stop crying at training. That’s not to say it doesn’t happen any longer, because it does – usually when I’m exhausted or hungry. I can recognize the triggers now though, and when I do, I pack up and go home and rest instead of pushing my body/mind further.


  • I think it is very important to have a good talk with your training partners and coach to let them know why it happens, and see what they can do to help. It can be very hard for someone to understand why you may be having a break-down, let alone how to deal with it at training. In my case, I usually just need 5 minutes alone in the bathroom to compose myself and then I’m ready to train again. Figure out what works for you and keep your coach informed.


  • I have also learned (finally) that jiu jitsu is about the execution of skills. It is not meant to be a war at every training session. I am not trying to win at jiu jitsu. I am not “fighting” my team mates. I am attempting to execute a particular skill, and when it doesn’t work, I ask questions, watch videos, problem solve, and then try it again. It is good to fight with heart, but you should try as much as possible to take the emotional component out of training.


  • What also helps is not defining yourself as a person, based on your training or competition results. When you lose a fight, that’s all that happens. You just lose a jiu jitsu fight. No one died, life doesn’t change, no one apart from you really cares (because they love you either way) and you get to learn a lot from your mistakes. The same holds true for when you win.


  • Stop comparing yourself to other women (or men). It’s easy to look at someone else and think you are far behind schedule. Everyone is different, and everyone learns at different speeds. Not every jiu jitsu practitioner needs to, or wants to win a World Championship. Many would not be able to do so, if they did want to. All of us cannot afford to train every single day, and we do not all possess the same physical and learning abilities. Remember it is your own journey and your only job is to be the best you can be. I think the people you meet, the lessons you learn, and the experiences you have; far outweigh any medals you might collect.


  • BJJ is a marathon. You will have good days and terrible days. You will have slumps, plateaus and periods of immense growth. Enjoy it all and know that this is not only normal, but it is crucial to your development.


  • Push yourself, but if you really don’t want to train, don’t. Go home and have a glass of wine and eat cake. Be nice to yourself. Then wake up the next day and go back to the gym and enjoy every single minute. It is such a wonderful journey, and a journey so well worth having. Why would you want to rush it?






I hope this article helps you. Thank you for reading!


You can follow Livia Gluchowska on Facebook.

Please check out her personal Jiu Jitsu blog as well.



Chael Sonnen Devoted To The Gi, Advice From Nate Diaz




Chael Sonnen interviewed Nate Diaz for his new talk show recently. At the end of the conversation the two discussed Brazilian Jiu Jitsu in the gi. Below is the transcript:


Chael Sonnen: I am retired, but I’m staying active. I don’t want to gain too much weight. I don’t wanna lose my shape so I’m staying active in the gym. I joined a Gracie Barra gym, Coach Fabiano Scherner, and I’m doing gi Jiu Jitsu on a nightly basis.Every night we go in at 6:30 and we’re doing gi training. Is that good? Is that gonna help me if I close my eyes at night and see myself as an MMA fighter? Am I gonna benefit from the gi? I know you’ve trained a lot in gi. Am I gonna benefit from the gi or is it a totally different sport? Because right now I’m feeling like it’s a different sport.


Nate Diaz: Oh it’s completely different, completely different. But I like the gi. I still train in it. I trained gi yesterday. I’ll fight for a little bit of time, but I’m gonna do martial arts, Jiu Jitsu and stuff, forever. You know what I’m saying? I enjoy Jiu Jitsu. One thing that people don’t understand is that in MMA people will call you out and they don’t train in the gi and these things. The fight starts when you run your mouth, right away. It’s like, “I wanna fight this guy.” Well you know what? Be careful for what you wish for. They’re like, “I don’t do the gi.” Then you go out to a club in Vegas, or where ever you’re gonna go, and there’s this fighter talkin’ s–t and calling you out. That’s when you forget that it’s winter time and you’re wearing a jacket and pants (laughs). Now you’ve never trained in a gi right? You might just get thrown down 10x easier with clothes on then without ’em so..


Nate Diaz: I dig the whole gi thing. I’m a martial artist. I think that it’s a fun workout as well, since you want to workout and be athletic. But, it is a different type of workout. If I don’t want to burn-out, get tired and overtrain when I’m trying to lose weight or something, I’ll put the gi on. It slows down the motions, let’s you get a little bit of a recovery workout. Not that it’s not hard. It’s hard too, but it’s slower than wrestling. I think it’s a good idea to train in the gi always.


Chael Sonnen: Alright well that’s encouraging. You’ve inspired me.




One would think that by the time you were a Purple Belt you would have a solid idea if you were going to benefit from the gi or not. You would also have actualized that BJJ is indeed a different sport. Oh Chael...




Test Your BJJ Political Affiliation! Which are you?




The Republican:

– Believes that BJJ is more for self-defense rather than sport.

– Is more of a pressure passer than a guard player; feels uncomfortable on their back.

– Will only wear a white gi with plenty of corporate patches.

– Is proficient with takedowns.

– Never lends out their athletic tape, thinks everyone should have their own.

– Always wears a rashguard.


The Democrat:

– Practices BJJ more for sport, rather than for self-defense.

– Is more of a guard player rather than a passer, comfortable on their back.

– Will wear any color gi, sometimes mixing pant and jacket colors. Patches may have messages intended to provoke others.

– Not so good with takedowns; will generally pull guard and work off of their back.

– Believes that the gym should charge extra to supply water and athletic tape to everyone in class.

– Tend to wear funny rashguards and/or graphic tees under the gi.


The Libertarian:

– Practices BJJ simply because they are free to do so.

– Lets the other person choose whether to play guard, or take the top.

– Wears white, black, blue or more particularly; a camouflaged gi. Doesn’t like many patches, if any.

– Will pull guard or go for the takedown; so long as no one forces them to do either.

– Has a solid base of fundamentals, enhanced by YouTube.

– Never wears a rashguard (men).


The Anarchist:

– Thinks you should mind your business about why they do Jiu Jitsu.

– Always ends up in crazy positions, broadly forsaking fundamentals.

– Wears outrageously colored gis; namely red and green, and early batch shoyoroll gis.

– Likes to go for judo throws that they have never practiced before.

– Never attempts the techniques that Professor taught in class.

– Creates new techniques; and gives old techniques new names.


Which category do you mostly fall under? Let us know on Facebook, Twitter, IG, Tumblr, Flickr, Google+, Vine, LinkedIn, Snapchat, WhatsApp, Kik or Tinder! Oops wait. We aren’t on Tinder.



Tony Peranio WBBJJ